First, congratulations on returning to the Church and hoping to live out your faith more deeply through the grace of confirmation.

     You ask a sincere question about how to navigate the dating relationship post-virginity and in a Christian context.  Here is my advice.

1) I would go to confession about the times you have had pre-marital sex, if you have not already done so.  Then, afterwards, know that this sin is behind you.

2) Openly communicate with your dates that you wish to maintain a chaste relationship.  Some partners may not wish to do so and should not be considered as suitable dating partners as this tension in sexual expectation will never be resolved.

3) Maintain proper boundaries with your dating partners.  Whenever either of you "goes too far," then stop your affection and "reset the boundaries."

4) Discuss your physical relationship; it should mirror your relationship as a whole and should progress as you progress toward marriage.

5) Dare to love in the fullest sense of the word.  Couples have entire worlds to share: emotional, intellectual, spiritual.  Don't be afraid to get to know the other person as a whole person.

6) Maintain your personal prayer life.  This can only help keep you centered in all of your relationships.

Hope this helps.

Grace and Peace,

Fr. Chris

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